Monday, August 1, 2016

Not an update: warning this may offend

I really enjoy "reality TV."  Probably a little too much.  I mainly like the shows that are about different ways a living or marrying.  (Tiny House Nation, Born This Way, Little People Big World, Arrange, and my FAVE Married At First Sight.)  I have been watching this new show on FYI called "Teenage Newlyweds."  I thought at first this show was going to be about why these kids choose to get married at such a young age.  Instead, it is more like they have to get a house and get jobs, and real married stuff.  Which is good.  Okay, not too much to get you hooked I know.  But, I thought that it was interesting.  

So, there is this couple on there, they are both 20... btw.  They are from California, Brenda and Travis.  Travis is conservative, and Brenda is liberal.  (I am generalizing here, but she is Spanish and while I wasn't sure where they are on a political standpoint, I thought that most of them were raised Catholic??  Wouldn't that mean that they are not pro-choice?  Again I am generalizing, but this is what I thought.)  Brenda and Travis had a pregnancy "scare" ( I really wanted to vomit at that word, but there it was, and I held the bile in,)  Travis said that if Brenda choose to have an abortion or that she didn't want the baby he would take the baby and leave her.  Brenda was very upset that Travis would even think of this, she wanted to go to school and have a career; "She didn't want to put her life on hold for a baby."  Are you kidding me?  Now, in this day and age, you are post the "16 and Pregnant" day.  You have seen or heard of "Teen Mom."  Why on earth would you not practice safe sex?  So the couple found out that they were not pregnant.  "Scare" Over! 

Then in another episode they went to talk to a Preacher that was pro-choice.  However, she didn't allow Travis to have any say in anything.  So my question, rant, point: HERE IT IS:  You married him, it's his baby and he has no choice in this?  That is his baby.  You have to watch Travis, he was so head over heals at the fact that they could have a baby.  I am just like OMG.  This guy is willing to raise a baby on his own, just to have a child.  

But, this Preacher really got my thinking.  Do we really leave our husbands/committed partner out of this conversation?  Is this woman really saying that men do not belong in this conversation?  This is where I am getting at as well.  As a married woman, I would want my husband to have say in lots of aspects of my life, a child being one of them.  I mean this child is a part of him and I am in the relationship with him.  I don't think that this is a one sided thought at all.  It is just not right that this woman would do this.  

Obviously you know where I am on the entire Pro-Choice or Pro-Life thing.  I am not telling anyone what to do with their body.  I do think that it is so awful that woman can pay nothing to not have a child and I have to pay an arm and a leg and then some to have one.  Please don't tell me that I am doing my insurance wrong.  There is no coverage.  But, I do think that if the costs were greater to have an abortion, than maybe people would think a lot longer and harder about having unprotected sex.  I'm also not understanding why so many people think that there is this war on woman.  It is not on Woman, it is more like towards woman.  We want the same pay and rights as men.  I personally want a job where I get just as much leave a benefits for having a baby as my husband.  He gets 12 weeks, I get 6.  He gets this amazing credit thing where he can put away for child care and such, and my job just helps you find reasonably priced child care.  He can put the child (not me) on his insurance and not worry about it taking away from his pay, I have to worry about them taking half my paycheck for me and the kid.  This is not fair.  This is what we need to fight for.  Woman have to work.  We can't stay home (okay some of you can, I totally commend you on that, I am actually going to try and work less hours, but this will depend on if the hubs moves up some more).  Alright I will stop there.  I promise that the next blog will be a real update, and not just me ranting on something that I have been watching on TV.  

Love and Baby Dust.


  1. I agree that there are a lot more hot issues that women need to be concerned about. I didn't plan on having Aidan but he is a blessing. I never felt like I had to "put my life on hold". I didn't start college courses again until both of my kids were born. If anything, having them gave me the drive I needed to better myself. Stupid people make good TV.

  2. That is so awesome. I don't think that babies ever come when we are ready. And yes dumb people do make great TV.